Balancing Act

My boyfriend has been doing a great job as a new dad. he's been working 8 hours a day, and sleeping less at night now that he is back on his regular work shift. He even takes Zavier for me quite a bit when he gets home so that I can rest a bit. It's nice to have his help.

He is also still participating in his former extracurricular activities- trips to concerts and Vegas, baseball games, outings with friends, etc. This is a luxury that dads have, not feeling or even needing to have that "maternal pulling/requirement" to be with baby pretty much all of the time. He does assert that I, too, can still participate in my recreational activities when he is not working, but for some reason it just doesn't seem right. I feel guilty leaving my little guy for an extended amount of time. I feel bad asking for help. I am a mom now. Yet, I am also still a woman, a human being. And I have people in my life that really WANT to help. So I should really relinquish some of the control and maladaptive feelings that I have about living a balanced life as a mom. After all, the gym, nail salon and happy hour bar are all calling. ;-)